A friend recently asked, “Ryan, how do you quickly build trust with people you don’t know?” No solid relationship can survive without trust. The faster you build trust, the faster you can build your relationship.
Trust is good for business, marriage, and friendships. Here are five ways you can quickly build trust with people you don’t know:
Brene Brown It: It’s time to be more vulnerable. Don’t feel like you have to know all the answers, look good, feel good and be good all the time. We are human. Show and share your vulnerabilities with the other person. As Brene reminds us, we see being vulnerable as a weakness when we do it, but as courageous when someone else does it. Be more vulnerable.
Oprah Winfrey It: Stop talking and start asking more questions. Get the other person to open up and get to the point. Ask open-ended questions to elicit answers other than “yes”, “no”, and “maybe”. The more you can get someone else to open up and talk, the more comfortable you will make them feel. This will ultimately lead them to trust you sooner. Ask more questions!
JK Rowling It: Who has a better fail story then the Wizarding author herself? I love her story, and so do millions of people around the world! We love to see people succeed who struggled at one point in their life. The bigger the struggle, the more we care about them and applaud their success. Share your failures and struggles before your successes and see the window of trust widen!
Brendon Burchard It: Every time I watch something of Brendon’s I learn something. Every time! I remember the first thing I watched from him. He taught me something in the first five minutes. I thought, “Wow, this guy is amazing!” I bought his books, I follow him, and I can’t wait to attend one of his seminars. Teach them something right off the bat that will help improve their lives and they will trust you even more.
The more quickly you build trust with someone, the bigger opportunity you have to make a difference in this world! Work hard to build and maintain your trust with everyone around you! As always…
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You also put a 10 on everyone’s head. When I first met you you treate me with dignity and respect. You didn’t know me but you were kind. That is why I trust you and would do business with you (again) as well as I am there if you need my help.
I like the way you’ve drawn inspiration from such a range of people here.
Brené Brown’s talk was enthralling, and Brendon Burchard’s an amazing presenter too. (I was fascinated by his use of a flipchart instead of slides, which is why I featured one of his videos on my speaking blog.)
It’s great to learn from so many people. Thanks for bringing them all together Ryan.
Thank you Lefford! I am glad we know each other and have the opportunity to work together! It is fun to watch you help others grow and see where you are now and think about where you will be in the next three years 🙂
Thanks Craig! Each one of these leaders have inspired me in at least one way and I agree with you…Brendon does an awesome job with the use of flip charts! Let’s keep learning and helping others!