How to Deal With People Who Are Better Than You

There is this feeling I get sometimes when I think, “Wow, that person is way better at that than I am.” Instead of getting angry or upset I do one of four things, and you may want to try these, too:

Reach out to them. Reach out and see what you can learn from them. Who knows? They might give you insight, advice, or strategies to become better. I can’t tell you how many people I have emailed or called and asked them how they do something and they just gave me the answer!

Copy them. If you find something they are doing that you like or that you know you could do better, copy them! Who is to say you can’t do it better?

Follow them. I utilize my lists on Twitter, adding people who are better than me to lists like “Speakers” or “Leaders” or “Mentors” so I can see what they are doing and how I can improve.

Share Them. Share with others what they are doing and why they inspire you. Show them that you are following them and you like their style!

People are not better than you; they are just bigger than you (with their reach). If someone else is doing something, that means you can do it also. Keep pushing yourself to new limits and as always…

Dream BIG,
Ryan

Ryan Avery

Author Ryan Avery

Hi, my name is Ryan Avery! Every Sunday I share the "notes" I use to build my keynotes. They are personal stories and tangible strategies we can use to improve the way we communicate at work, at home and with ourselves.

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  • Karen O'Keefe says:

    While I like the concept of learning from people who are better at something that we are (really, the best way to improve at anything), I have to take issue with the idea that anyone is better than me (or you or anyone else) as people. I am sure that is not your message, but it might provide clarification for something that could be easily misconstrued.

  • Kavi says:

    Hi Ryan … i love the article. WeIl, I am a big fan of yours. And i’ve used your P 3 times a day at my club when I was called to deliver a table topic. I ‘ve copied and shared your idea with my fellow Tms and mentioning your name. And I follow you on Twitter. thanks again for this great article. Kavi

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